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Holiday lightsOkay, last week week we decided to change “self-care” to ”brighten-up” and I told you I would tell you why…

Brighten-up? What in tarnation are you talkin’ about?!

 

 

First, it’s important you get what self-care REALLY is so when you learn why I changed the name it all makes sense. (Don’t worry, sistah…I will never leave you in the dark).

We tend to view self-care as massages, weekend getaways, chunks of time away from kids, etc. These are all good, but self-care can happen at any given moment no matter what is swirling around us.

That’s why we should replace the word self-care with something else. (Later in this post you’ll learn my #1 quickest method to rejuvenate yourself…no matter where you are).

You know what? Self-care is simply HONORING YOURSELF. It’s listening to your body, mind, and spirit. When any of those parts feel down we take action to lift it up…or “brighten-up”. Just like the phrase “freshen up” implies, “brighten-up” can happen relatively quickly with minimal effort and produce remarkable results.

Brighten-up, schmighten-up…what’s the big deal?!

All women know what happens when we don’t freshen up… we LOOK run down, exhausted, and overworked. Let’s tell the truth here. When women don’t brighten-up…we FEEL run down, exhausted, and overworked.

Zoikes! Have you ever felt that way? Especially during the holiday season?

Hey, no surprise here. I could go on for days about WHY we do that. But what really matters is HOW to quickly and easily turn it all around. Here’s the HOW…

The #1 Quickest Method To Rejuvenate Yourself…No Matter Where You Are

***This works best if you are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, upset, scared, or any negative kind of emotion…

Step 1: No matter where you are, be there. Be fully present to you. Even if you don’t think you can be, you can.
Step 2: Ask yourself “Oh, Honey, it seems you’re getting frustrated (or whatever emotion you are feeling)…what’s happening in your body because of that?
Step 3: Notice any physical sensations that pop up in your body. It may be a heavy feeling in your chest, a knot in your stomach, or something completely different.
Step 4: Be present to the feeling without trying to get rid of it. Just notice it. (you may find yourself “breathing into” the feeling…that’s good too)
Step 5: Stay with it. You’re doing great…even when you feel silly or uncomfortable.
Step 6: Stay with it some more… that’s right. Stay with it just like you would your upset son who fell off his bike and hurt his knee. Just be present to it.
Step 7: Remember: you only think an eternity has passed. It’s really only been 30 seconds.
Step 8: Once the feeling is gone you will find you are much more peaceful, focused, and calm.

**BAM** INSTANT REJUVENATOR!!!

That’s my absolute #1 best “brighten-up” strategy…

Next time, we will be talking about how this can bring more than just peace of mind. I’m talkin’ $$$!!!

  • Texting while driving even though you know it’s dangerous.

    Froggy Mind - jumping to past and future

    Froggy Mind – jumping to past and future

  • It’s hard to remember things.
  • Distracted, even around people you love.

 Sound familiar?

 I know. You’re busy. Crazy busy. Doing 3 things while your mind is mucking around in your endless to-do list.

I’d be loading laundry, cleaning the cat box and making a mental grocery list as I was ruminating about the looming deadline on a project.

One day I passed a store window and wondered who that woman was, rushing by with her chin jutting out. I realized with a jolt it was my own reflection.

I was running through my life instead of actually living it.

 The tension of doing one thing while worrying about the need to do another left me feeling tired and wired. And yes, more than a wee bit cranky.

 In his book Less: Accomplishing More by Doing Less, Marc Lesser says:

No matter how mundane the activity, treat everything as important and take pleasure in it.

At bottom, whatever we are doing right now is what we are engaged in and it deserves our full attention and appreciation.”

Quieting our mind greases our mental gears. It actually improves our focus and concentration.

Instead of “body in one place, mind in another” I can notice. I’m. Here. Now.

When I’m washing the dishes, I can feel the warm water. Feel my breath at the tip of my nose. See the colors moving on the bubbles.

No matter what is going on, I can let go of froggy-mind that jumps to any place but the now moment. 

When I quiet my mind, I find I actually have more energy. I’m more alert to the song inside my heart.

And my family will tell you – I’m  a whole lot easier to be around.

Read a line or two in an inspiring book

SLOW ME DOWN, PLEASE

No time for a beach trip? How about taking minute vacations?

Wilferd Arlan Peterson writes:

Ease the pounding of my heart by the quieting of my mind. Steady my hurried pace.

Teach me the art of taking “minute vacations”…slowing down to look at a flower, to chat with a friend, to read a few lines from a good book.

Give me, amidst the day’s confusion, the calmness of the everlasting hills.

Break the tensions of my nerves and muscles with the soothing music of singing streams that lie in my memory.

Help me to know the magical, restoring power of sleep.

 

Remind me that there is more to life than measuring its speed.

Slow me down, please.

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